Alivia D’Andrea’s Glow Up Diet Ruined Her Life (Let’s Talk About It…)

@GirlVersusWild says:

I think people treat you differently depending on your looks in general, whether it’s weight or attractiveness in general that changes. I’ve experienced the latter.

@maggies88 says:

I always think it’s kind of interesting. Particularly a certain type of woman who all of a sudden sees you as a peer when you are smaller.

@CorwinFound says:

Trans guy here who came out at 45 yo. I’ve gained and lost weight both as a guy and as a woman. Very different.

Of course there is more negativity towards heavy and gaining women. But more impactful for me was the difference losing weight. As a guy no one says anything. No congratulations. No asking “how are you doing it?” No one even seems to notice!

You’d think losing that positive feedback would feel negative. But it doesn’t. Once I got over that feeling of stepping up to a stair that doesn’t exist, it was very freeing feeling. No need to check in with people and give updates for good or bad. No worrying that I’d disappoint people somehow if my weight loss stalled. Just… me. My weight went from being a public concern to a private one.

I’m not saying that men don’t experience body shaming or weight discrimination or the perils of diet and fitness culture. Sadly it seems like society is trying to get men to catch up with women in this regard. But from my experience, as a white, middle aged, middle class trans guy, it has been a very different experience from what it was as a woman.

@AbbeysKitchen says:

thanks for sharing this!! So important

@walterco7701 says:

My mom, in full dementia, was still very worried about “getting fat” even though she was eating food in portions that a toddler would have.

@mika_5476 says:

Her mother, it seems, was the first to be, and continue to be, cruel to her.
This is the part people are yet to understand with social media personalities. A lot of content creators are already vulnerable. That’s why they can talk to a camera but often have very few people who appear to be close to them. As they become more known, we see them as famous, or as characters on a tv show, who can handle whatever we throw at them. But they can’t. They’ve taken to talking to a camera because reality is already difficult and painful. Social media isn’t only bad for the people consuming it. It can be just as dark for those creating it.

@taiyabazaheer9492 says:

America has way too strict and unrealistic body standards from my observation as someone who interacts with Americans only online. I saw a video where Sabrina carpenter is looking perfectly skinny, she just doesn’t have abs maybe because she ate a meal before. And people were saying she ‘had a stomach’ and they felt happy she wasn’t perfectly skinny which felt weird and ironic as she was really skinny there. Thinness is a standard everywhere as it is related to health but America is unhealthily obsessed with it, coming from a north indian where being skinny is the standard and all Bollywood actresses have abs but still doesn’t feel pressure and doesn’t know anyone having restrictive EDs.