Stephanie Buttermore Got Plastic Surgery (and Fans Lost Their $h*t)
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Hey everyone I’m Abbey Sharp welcome to Abbey’s Kitchen. Today I’m going to pulling up an older video from Stephanie Buttermore that recently resurfaced when she made a really honest and authentic post on Instagram about plastic surgery and body positivity.
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There’s GOOD reason it is ILLEGAL under food health and safety for farmers to allow collostrum into the supply of milk sent for human consumption. And that is because immune proteins from another animal with a completely different immune system = higher chance for people to have an allergic reaction.
The fact that it is now a supplement is wild. And the fact that you as someone who should know this stuff is shilling it is worse.
I’m glad she was transparent about her surgery. I still haven’t fully come to a conclusion on elective augmentation surgeries but I have definitely decided I hate when public figures who use their body for content lie about plastic surgery
I wish she was more transparent about all of the other cosmetic stuff she’s done for that exact reason!
Totally understandable
@@abbielindellwhy? What does it matter to you, how you live your life? I don’t understand why anyone cares what anyone else does to their own bodies. It’s weird to expect someone to report everything and anything they do to THEMSELVES.
@@mika_5476it’s weird to me to pick and choose when not to share. In real life my friends/ coworkers/ strangers share these things with each other. Influencers pick and choose when they want to be honest and up front and that’s weird to me.
Example used in the video is the Kardashian’s who recently decided to disclaim obvious things they’ve had done that they’ve been actively denying and contributing to working out and eating healthy. These people want to be praised/ credited for being up front and honest because that is where the internet is heading these days is transparency.
Coming forward about one cosmetic surgery implies you’ve had one surgery. If it was for you and not because society made you feel you needed this surgery, people should be proud to have finally purchased something to make them happy.. there wouldn’t be the shame/ secrecy.
@@mika_5476It matters as soon as people give advice on how to achieve a certain look, especially when they’re selling a product.
Don’t you think a fitness influencer who has a flat stomach because she had liposuction should disclaim that? Otherwise, many people will believe that she achieved this by following routines or programs she shares and sells.
Same goes for people you know privately, if they have had work done or taken medication or even illegal drugs to achieve a certain result, I do believe they should be transparent about that instead of claiming they achieved this completely on their own by eating less, just training, etc. (or just don’t talk about it at all, they aren’t trying to sell you something after all).
But don’t lie and feed into the illusion that something that can’t be achieved naturally can be achieved naturally. Just say you don’t want to talk about it if you don’t want to tell everyone what you have done instead of lying. And if you’re selling something, be transparent.
Now, this isn’t about Stephanie, just ,y general thoughts on this topic.
I do think elective cosmetic surgeries are harmful for a myriad of reasons that I don’t feel like getting into in typing this comment. It is an opinion I’ve carefully formed over the past decade. But — when people choose to do it, if they are transparent about it that absolutely mitigates some of those harms.
Genuine body positivity to me is radical self acceptance… BUT honesty is always better than lying.
side note: elective cosmetic surgeries after injury or disfigurement are different to me than something that is purely about chasing perfection/vanity.
@@koalatea8126If people didn’t have a notion of bodily perfection, or an ideal of what the perfect body is, they would remain disfigured (which could be anything from a deviated caudal septum to burns to 50 per cent of one’s body). Besides, pretty privilege makes everyone feel inadequate. It is this inadequacy, and not “vanity” (that old misogynistic chestnut men use against women, yet no one is vainer than men), that makes people want to look better.
I look at plastic surgery in the same way i look at tattoos, piercings, fashion and hairstyles. Getting work done doesnt inherently mean you dont love yourself or the way you look. Sometimes its literally as simple as, “i like the way big boobs look”. And even if she got them because of an insecurity, why are we blaming her and not the culture that made her feel that way?
Great points
Except none of those things are nearly as dangerous and expensive as plastic surgery. Fashion trends come and go. Your body is not a trend. So many women have complications after breast implant surgery and now we know breast implant illness is a thing. Pretty hard to say you respect your body if you are doing something unecessary that could endager your health.
I hate that they’e coming after her with with all that she has been through.
Abbey does a video on Stephanie Buttermore the same day Will Tennyson releases a video with Jeff Nippard – what a fantastic day! Four Youtubers I find so important to my body/food recovery journey. Thank you for all your excellent, intelligent, and well researched, content. Always love your two cents.
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I agree with you Abbey that wanting to augment your body doesn’t mean you don’t love and respect it. For all we know Stephanie had a breast deformity she wanted to fix and just doesn’t feel comfortable talking about it. There are several breast deformities out there, I had one myself and got implants to correct it. Everyone has the right to do things like that. People need to mind their own business and let her live.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Saying that plastic surgery can’t be body positive excludes transgender people from body positivity in my opinion as a transgender person
This is an important perspective too
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I agree! I think gender affirming plastic surgery should be destigmatised for cis and trans people. Trans women & cis women get implants for the same reason.
@@Nadia-jk5jw you have put this perfectly
I think it’s a lot of pressure to say that just because someone advocates body positivity, they’re not allowed to ever make choices that might stem from insecurity. No, it’s probably not ideal, but we all live in a society that wants us to look a certain way, and it doesn’t feel very compassionate to shame other people for sometimes caving to those expectations.
It’s freakin’ difficult to love every aspect of yourself (ESPECIALLY when it comes to your own body), and the road to unconditional self-acceptance can be so painful and complex, no matter what principles you adhere to. I don’t think we need to make individuals feel bad for not being able to handle that struggle all the time.
Also, and this isn’t completely comparable, but I often go months without shaving or otherwise removing hair from any part of my body. I can wear shorts and tank tops in the summer without feeling shame about my furry body parts, and I can shower without ever feeling compelled to grab a razor.
And then sometimes, I want to shave my legs or armpits, and when I do, it’s not because I hate my body hair, I just feel like switching things up a bit.
It might be a little different when it’s a more permanent change like a breast augmentation, but I still don’t necessarily think the choice to alter something about your body means you automatically hated or even disliked it the way it was before. I think the important thing is to have some honest conversations with yourself about why you want that change and whether it’s a sign that maybe you have some deeper insecurities that might be worth exploring, whether or not you decide to go through with the alteration.
I agree, it’s nearly impossible to love everything about your body (or yourself).
We are allowed to try to change ourselves and become a better person, we are even encouraged to do so, and rightfully so. But when it comes to our body, why should we not be allowed to change something about if it makes us feel better?
I’m not saying we should all get plastic surgery to change every little thing we don’t like. But if there’s something truly bothers us and we feel much better and more comfortable in our own body afterwards, it might be the right choice for someone. No, you’re probably not body positive about this one thing about your body you choose to change, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be positive overall or advocate for accepting your flaws.
I, for example, don’t like my body hair and I remove it, but that doesn’t mean I don’t feel good about my appearance in general or feel ashamed of my body hair, I just prefer my body without it. I also bleached my hair, but not because I hate my real hair color, not even because I like it less than blonde hair, but because I feel like this is what I want to look like right now. Same goes for painting my nails or lips, I do it because I like it, not because I hate my natural look.
Now, I wouldn’t call myself body positive, I’m not a big fan of such labels, but I’m certainly happy with my looks, even though there are things I change about my appearance. I believe the same can apply to people who get surgery, just that they don’t feel good about one single thing and feel much better after changing it.
I think it’s a brilliant point that if you criticise people for changing the way their body looks through cosmetic surgery but not through injectables/piercings/tattoos ect then you probably need to take a step back and have another think about it
I work with a plastic surgeon and I wish there was way more nuance and less judgement when it comes to elective procedures. There is a very stereotypical view of what the types of patients who come to our office are, and it’s largely untrue. We work with patients who have lost their breasts or other body parts to cancer and want to feel whole again/not be reminded of their illness every time they look in the mirror. We work with transgender patients who want to feel like their body reflects who they are. We work with patients who have disfiguring scars they don’t want people looking at. We work with patients who no longer recognize their body after having children and want to feel more in control of their lives. And that’s all okay! People have broken down in our office from the sheer shame of going to a consultation with a plastic surgeon, which is an absolute tragedy. People — even those who choose to share some of their life on social media, even those who simply want to “be more beautiful” — have complex, private relationships with their bodies that they deserve complete autonomy over. I really wish elective cosmetic procedures were seen more as a helpful aide to other types of mental health treatment, which in my experience they absolutely are. [Edit: of course it’s not black and white, of course societal expectations of beauty go into it, of course there are slimy surgeons out there. But let’s let people live! Let’s trust that Stephanie is an intelligent individual who made an informed decision that made her happy in her body].
Not saying this is her case but we don’t see many people in the west who develop oddly due to nutrition or environmental damage. Also, there are people who benefit from surgery to look more harmonious, eg if their overall physique is super masculine but they are femme identifying (cis or trans), sometimes YES, get that surgery is good for them and who am I to say if they need it or don’t. It’s a more extreme form of hair dying I guess, so that’s fine by me.
I agree with your take, Abbey. Thank you for another great video.
I doubt women would want to get breast implants if there wasn’t societal pressure to have a particular body shape. I appreciate stephanie being honest but I did unfollow her around that time because her content just isn’t what I’m interested in anymore. I don’t think getting cosmetic surgery aligns with body acceptance. I do believe in bodily autonomy and obviously she has the right to do whatever she wants with her body but it doesn’t make sense to make a bunch of videos about accepting your body as it is and then going and getting plastic surgery. Nobody HAS to accept their body, people have the right to change whatever they want about their appearance but if you have profited off preaching accepting what your body looks like, it makes no sense to get surgery to alter it.
Breast implants aren’t a small aesthetic choice. It is a clear attempt at fitting into what society demands women’s bodies look like. I can’t blame her for wanting them. I’ve considered implants several times, however I had to make a decision between accepting whatever my body looks like and trying to fit into societal beauty standards. Again, she has the right to do whatever she wants but I will not be following someone who profits off of messaging about body acceptance but then gets surgery to fit into the profitable body shape.
@RoastedSaltedPeanut A very self-righteous admonition, I must say (easy there, sheriff).
Self-acceptance? That’s a slogan; the palaver we tell us ourselves to feel better about not measuring up to society’s standards. But not what we tell ourselves in private when no one is about to see or hear us. It’s one thing to talk a good game that one accepts oneself and quite another to actually stop being self-critical (to silence that little derisive voice in one’s head that says you’re not quite good enough because basically what woman doesn’t hear it being said about women all the time). She’s just a woman like the rest of us who is subject to the same neuroses about their looks, appearance, and image.
Yes, she’s trying to fit “into what society demands women’s bodies look like”. But, so what? We go to school to fit into what society demands is intelligence. Beauty is like IQ–a fabricated myth, but one that has life consequences if we don’t fulfill it. Things are a lot more complicated than you make it.
Why are the powerless being blamed for what the powerful impose on them? Rich white men make the rules. Stop flogging her and come up with a resolution besides reprimanding women who conform. You conform too but in different ways.
I’m a fan of Stephanie & I legit forgot about this lol. I don’t really care tbh but I appreciated her honesty. I think it’s good to have more dialogue about both the pros & cons of plastic surgery tbh.
“…decision made without external pressure…” This is not possible in our present society. Women are expected to look a certain way by society. The pressure is real.
That’s my issue as well. No decision we make isn’t influenced by society, and especially women’s appearances are under so much scrutiny, that these decisions cannot really be solely “my own decision for myself”…
So are men. There are ideals for everyone and every single decision we make is influenced by other people, no matter which kind of decision.
I just think that we have to realize that many plastic surgeries only exist because of societal presssure and especially as women, we cannot really escape that pressure. So while I do think everyone can do what they want, we should also keep critizing the pressure on women to have perfect boobs, noses, hair, lips etc. I definitely hope there’s less demand for (this kind of) plastic surgery in the future because the pressure is lifted!
2 things can be true at the same time. You can love your body and still want to alter it.
“…and for the criticism that this is *off-brand*, or hypocritical of her…”
THIS. This was the line that got me. Regardless of my personal opinion on plastic surgery and the beauty industry, or my speculations about Stephanie’s mental health and private life, this is where my problem lies.
Stephanie Buttermore is an individual. A person with a right to do WHATEVER she wants to herself. Not a brand. Not a concept. Not a product sample from the line called “influencer”. She does not have to hold herself to any “guidelines” in her health and appearance.
She does not owe anyone an “on-brand” personality.