There Is More To Life Than a Skinny Body (I PROMISE)

@feistyfluxy says:

You’re missing the point entirely. There are mindsets where they have a very unhealthy outlook on health. She’s talking about how there is more to life than wanting to be skinny. There is zero judgement on skinny people, but concern for people in pursuit of it for the sake of “happiness”. Pursuing skinniness does not make anyone happy, in fact it’s downright dangerous.

@gigglingchicken8444 says:

All people receive judgement, no matter your size or what you look like. We don’t know what the person has gone through or what they are thinking now. They could of gone through something similar that I am dealing with, this could just be a personal goal that I have no right to tell if they are right or wrong, or it could be a mental health problem that can lead to other health problems, to name a few.
Bodies and physical/mental health are complicated and diverse so what you see at face value can be completely wrong.

@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118 says:

Great point. They’re disappointed it didn’t solve all (or even most) of their problems like they thought it would.
I also read about people getting really angry at society because after losing weight they notice that people treat them differently (better).

Some people have trouble accepting that this is the lived experience of (some, perhaps not all) ex fat people, so they tell them “it wasn’t because of your weight, people are nicer to you now because you are more confident”. Which also assumes these people actually did get more confident, as if that happens automatically when you lose weight.

They don’t see how inconsistent they are. They don’t want to acknowledge or even believe society is shallow enough to treat fat people worse, but then they also assume you will get more confident as a result of weight loss, which (when it happens) happens because society is shallow.
Because if weight based stigma wasn’t a thing then fat people wouldn’t automatically become more confident as a result of weight loss.

@mashaa.7509 says:

I thought it was also related to many people regaining weight

@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118 says:

@@luiysia Definitely. People who are closer to societal standards of beauty are allowed more freedoms. Fat people aren’t allowed to wear certain things, do certain activities or be confident. If they break these unwritten rules they face negative consequences.
Fat people are scrutinized for their food choices to a much greater extent. Fat people are often perceived as less intelligent, less disciplined and more lazy.

When fat people lose weight to the point where they are no longer considered fat it’s not uncommon for them to blossom as people because some aspects of their life are objectively better now (more freedoms, less scrutiny, fewer negative assumptions) and they’re allowed to just be people worthy of basic human decency. There is often the feeling of relief when people are no longer subject to the things that they were subject to because they were fat.

Of course this doesn’t mean that people automatically gain confidence or are less depressed after weight loss. It also doesn’t mean slim people are never scrutinized.

@jillianwickham31 says:

It’s critical to nourish and move your body with wisdom and from a place of true love for your self and hope for your life. People will have BIG feelings, all sorts of big feelings, in response to your body becoming more conventionally attractive. They’ll praise you, they’ll be intimidated by you and try to send you mean girl vibes, they’ll get that weird glazed over look in their eyes because you’re ‘so inspiring’, they’ll start looking at what’s on your plate out of nosiness/insecurity.

Forget them. Forget all of them and their big feelings. Their feelings about your body are none of your business.