Should you shame people into being healthy?
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Lost respect? Girl you hate them, you wouldn’t respect them anyway? This sounds like an ED
Yes. And self hate. And horrible self esteem.
This whole idea is toxic AF.
Poor girl, I hope she grows out if it.
Oh man, I hope this young woman discovers self-esteem work soon because it just hurts so much to hear her hating on herself so badly. Hating yourself through diets and fitness isn’t wellness, it’s letting the Inner Critic perpetuate abuse.
Whenever I hear this kind of advice, it always strikes me as someone who hasn’t personally experienced what they are criticizing.
YES!!
Exactly the sort of “friend” I had in my younger days, much to my detriment
I feel sorry for her and hope she realizes that this negativity is not helpful.
That video totally had mean girl vibes…the person has lots of growing up to do, I think – much to learn about life, people and general kindness. A shame that anyone that can record a video can send info like this out into the universe. Most would ignore her…but these words could be harmful to someone vulnerable. Thanks for being you Abbey!! ♥️♥️♥️
Yea definitely mean girl vibes.
Personally, I couldn’t care enough what someone I dislike does. I can’t help but feel she’s the type to make too many scenarios in her head lol
And on Wednesday she wears pink?
Heard this advice opposite! Like treat yourself like your best friend! Its common advice for people who struggle with self worth and self love, I heard it most in the context of neurodivergence because neurodivergent people are often very hard on themselves about the symptoms of their disorder <3
Yes! That’s the healthy approach.
Treat yourself with the love and care and kindness, you would treat a child you love.
My husband is definitely a “tough love” kind of person- it motivates him. ME HOWEVER- I shut right down. I think I’m probably the majority
She’s one of those people that hides rudeness and meanness as “telling it how it is”.
Reminds me of the folks who say horrible things and then say they’re just joking. I wonder if there’s a name for this abusive behavior.
I mean, if she judges other people like that, if she has a problem with the fact that they don’t think they’re “disciplined,” then ultimately it’s her problem
Sounds like a few exes I’ve had lol. Then if you react or speak up for yourself then the typical reply of “you need to toughen up/get a thicker skin” or “you’re too sensitive”
A bit like Abbey trying to pass her snarky bullying off as being “sassy” 🙄
It’s just giving “I have no filter”
I hate this. There’s so much of this in the fitness community. It also fails to recognize that some people have chronic pain, disabilities, or chronic illnesses, and would love nothing more than to just go to the gym, but that act could actually set back their health progress.
As a chronically ill person working out when I can does a lot for my health 🤷♀️
@ZI hear you. Am also chronically ill (and was a competitive CrossFitter before I got sick) so my comment didn’t come without experience. It’s a balance, it can help, but pushing yourself too hard at the gym or going on days when you need to be resting can also make things worse (especially if chronic pain comes with the chronic illness). I’m still an advocate for fitness, but I’m not an advocate for this kind of negative, “you’re lazy,” motivation that many able bodied people use.
I do literally the exact opposite of this. I have struggled a LOT with negative self-talk. Whenever I am experiencing negative self-talk, I ask myself, “Would I ever say this to a friend or close family member?” And if the answer is no and I need to stop and treat myself more kindly.
exactly!! thank you
That’s really helpful, thanks 🙏
I too struggle with negativity towards myself and it took years for me to be kinder towards myself. Wish I had known this lol
This helps me too! I try to treat myself as kindly as I would want to always treat my loved ones and that really helps.
Yes. You can’t hate yourself into happiness.
This is a prescription for depression and anxiety.
I’d argue it’s more of a symptom really. If you have that much negativity in your head already… It’s a bad sign either way.
My best way of figuring out if I should go to the gym or not, eat healthy or not is “What is best for future me?”
If I am exhausted, I will chose not to go to the gym and be grateful I’m not falling ill next week.
I might go to the gym but I’m not going to go all out.
She basically said she would lose all respect for a person if they felt lazy one day and didnt want to go to the gym 😵💫 what in the entire hell is this. Im surprised if she even has friends with that attitude
I genuinely try to wish people well, even those who have wronged me and it’s a much better way to live. Let’s wish Grace and love and kindness in our enemies’ lives so that they can heal and grow.
I can’t get over the “worst enemy”. What are you doing in your life that you have an enemy?
I shamed myself for years and couldn’t get healthy, only more depressed. A few years ago I started doing the exact opposite; I started being kind to myself and patient – I lost almost 20kg and my mental health improved as well. This girl has mean girl energy all over her!
She’s teaching the sort of thought patterns that people spend years in therapy trying to undo.
No one should aspire to be their own worst enemy.