Sk*nniTok & Motherhood (the Unintentional SHOCKING Risks)
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Sk*nniTok is exploding on TikTok, and toxic sk*nni aesthetics, diet culture trends, and harmful "what I eat in a day" content are everywhere. I’m Abbey Sharp, a registered dietitian, and in today’s video, I’m building on what we have discussed in previous videos in this series, and discussing how Sk*nnitok my be affecting your kids. We will discuss generational diet culture, why Sk*nnitok is so popular in mom circles, the role of moms dieting behaviour on kids relationship with food and their body, and how even just interacting with this content online is putting our kids at risk.
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There is a term for skinny celebrities that make a show of eating rich foods in public called “Dipe,” which stands for Insistent Declarations of Public eating . I think honesty is always the best approach for both for kids and adults so that you’re not under the illusion that thinness is effortless for most people.
I think if a kid thinks “thinfluencers” eat pizza all day and look like that, they’ll think something is wrong with them and feel more of a failure. There will always be difficult truths kids will be exposed to, i think the only way to handle it with respect is by beng honest, but also by educating them and giving them context.
Absolutely. Honesty and context are key, especially when it comes to helping kids navigate unrealistic messages about food and bodies. Thanks for sharing this.
@AbbeysKitchen I must have misunderstood, I thought you were implying un the video that the lie would be less harmful than the truth 😅
This is honestly how I felt watching the Gilmore girls growing up 🥲 not to mention in the 2000s/2010s advertisements like to use a super thin women in a bikini biting into a huge burger. It really confused me. Now as an adult I better understand but there are sneakier things now like what I eat in a day where real people are literally claiming to eat all this food
I’ve lost 100lbs by learning better emotional regulation skills, and listening to my hunger and fullness cues. I do worry for my kids when they see other people comment on my weight loss. Like saying “you should be so proud of your mom”, kind of stuff. I try to just tell them that I get my steps and listen to my body because I like feeling good and I want to live a long time. A video on how to navigate all this with my kids though would be really appreciated!
Thanks for sharing your story. Love how you’re approaching this with your kids. That video idea is a great one. Definitely worth exploring.
i’m not a parent, but a survivor of an almond mom i think you make GREAT points about how it impacts children- i have a healthy relationship with food DESPITE surviving an almond mom thanks in part to your content, and agree that even if you aren’t prescribing your kids to your restrictive diet, they still internalize the messaging, at least in my experience. thank you so much for making this video, i hope it helps prevent future generations from the diet culture induced trauma i experienced as a child. ❤
Thank you so much for this. Really glad the content has been helpful. You’re right, kids pick up on so much even when it’s not said out loud. Appreciate you sharing your experience.
These mothers don’t love their children unless they stay thin.
That kind of pressure can leave deep scars. Every child deserves to feel loved unconditionally, no matter their size.
My disordered eating is an heirloom. My mother was/is a constant dieter jumping on every new diet fad she gets her hands on. She wasn’t an almond-mom per se but I definitely saw my mom be weird around food and thought that’s what’s normal.
I’m really sorry you experienced that. It’s so common for disordered eating patterns to be passed down like that. Thanks for opening up and sharing your story.
I would be so grateful if you could make a video on how to go on a weight loss journey without it negatively influencing kids.
Absolutely
As someone who battled anorexia throughout my childhood: just don’t comment on children’s bodies or engage in diet talk around children
@@HuntresFaeand anyone’s body
All I know is that I was a normal, just not “skinny,” teenager. I wore a size 5. And while I never got to the point of an eating disorder, the attempts to lose weight/restrict what I ate, like having just a yogurt for lunch, had to have been off-set by much bigger meals or snacks when I did eat, because I stayed that same weight until I didn’t. I gained the obligatory freshman 15 and a bit more when I got my first desk job and fluctuated just below obese for my entire adulthood until two years ago.
How I ate was so imbalanced and I felt like I was perpetually on a diet with zero progress. I see now that I was likely in a restrict-binge cycle for about 25 years. I finally just started eating balanced meals and I’m back to where I was when I started trying to manipulate my weight. I guess I’ll never truly know, but I feel like if I had just left well enough alone I wouldn’t have spent all of that time being overweight. But would my 16 year-old self believe my 43 year-old self and spare herself the trouble? I’ll never truly know that either.
Every day of my life, I would rather see a thin influencer eating more calories because the skinny tips will hit kids and teens, and they will not know how to negate those.
I agree with you. I remember every time someone has ever called me “fat” including my parents and other people, even if I was a kid.
Would really like to see a video on EDs in athletes (maybe college specific) and REDs
Love your nuanced takes and balanced advice. Tysm for helping us navigate these diet culture landscapes!
Im obese and grew up eating whatever I wanted. I wish my parents would have emphasized balance and nutrition rather than just give me candy bc I was whining to have candy. I have 2 daughters and we eat yummy treats regularly, and we we always pair them with a nourishing, balanced meal. I’m teaching them not to count calories or macros or anything, but to to notice if their meal is balanced between low-medium processed foods (like a sandwich and carrots) and high-processed foods (like chips and a lolly). They know that ultra processed foods are designed to be delicious so we want more of them, but also that it’s wonderful to enjoy them regularly with other nourishing food…it’s hard out here man!!!
Mom of 2 young girls here and I’d definitely prefer the lie!
I would love to see a video on how to navigate trying to change your own body/diet without creating a harmful narrative. I don’t have kids but I think a similar problem could arise if you have other family members or a partner who might be sensitive to this topic especially when you live together.
Thanks for your content!
This is my first comment ever on YouTube. I am a mom of a 14 year old, so it’s been a long time since I’ve been a new mom. But 14 years ago, there were very few people having these types of conversation on what it was like to be a brand new mom with a baby, let alone the body expectations. Thank you for normalizing this topic, and no new mom’s journey is the same. A new mom should be focused on baby first, hands down, and should not be made to feel that the body should bounce back on a specific timeline…..sometimes it doesn’t bounce back at all, and that’s ok. Becoming a mom is a monumental feat and should be celebrated. Your life takes on new meaning, of which being “skinny” should be the least of your goals!
My mom took me to her WW and other meetings every week when I was a kid. I watched her struggle with self-worth and constant body issues and she (very unintentionally) made me feel like I needed to do the same thing and left me with a LOT of baggage. I think she was trying to help me in her own way because I got bullied for being fat (despite only being a little overweight and maturing early) but it really created even more pain. She didn’t mean to, but her constant body negativity even when she thought we weren’t watching hurt me in ways I didn’t realize until I was an adult.
I’m so so sorry you experienced this. I was a skinny/underweight child yet my father a,ways called me fat when I was growing up, causing an ed to develop, it’s so sad
You would prefer the lie because you are one of the liars.